Self-Care also known as "Me too"
As moms, I believe our innate inclination is to care for others in our family, particularly our kids, in ways that simultaneously yet subconsciously, prompt us to allow our own self-care practices to become negotiable. It's almost like we wake up, jump into our imaginary phone booth, suit up in our perfectly fitted bodysuit, accessorized with our cape, and boom just like that, out comes super mom! However, what we fail to realize, is just like any superhero, we too, have kryptonite. For us, that is consistent self-sacrifice without routine self-care. Make no mistake, we are all super moms in our own rights. From our magic kisses, and hugs that heal any and all wounds, to our bomb home-cooked meals that have no comparison. We manage to make the impossible possible every single day while looking damn good might I add! But here is a fun fact that goes against societal norms, our self-care is non-negotiable, and it is a top priority.
If one day you miraculously happen to meet a client of mine, I can guarantee you the one quote they will recite is, "You cannot pour from an empty cup." Not only is this my daily mantra, but it is also one of my favorite analogies to use in sessions. Why? Simply put, it rings true. You cannot give to others what you do not have for yourself. Being a mom directly correlates to the love we have for ourselves, and the many ways we actively practice self-care. For most, self-care equates to a day at the spa. However, when exploring self-care practices in context with the high demands that comes with motherhood, a spa day is nice, and depending on the spa it could be super nice, but it is not enough. With that being said, self-care practices should be part of your daily routine, rather than an event that happens occasionally.
As a mom of two toddlers, I am very intentional in the ways I show up for myself and the self-care practices I choose to implement daily. It is very important to me to share with you that my self-care journey has not been easy, and on most days it was truly an uphill battle because like most moms, I dealt with major mommy guilt. At times I felt like taking time to do things that were fulfilling or enjoyable for me meant I was being a "bad mom". It was not until I made a shift in my perception that I realized, it was my ability to love and adequately care for myself, that would allow me to not only meet the basic needs of my children (food, clothing, and shelter) but also to be fully present and available for them emotionally and mentally. For me, that is the definition of being a great mom.
Below is a list of self-care practices that I have found to be helpful on my journey. *Please note that although these practices may have worked for me as they are tailored to my circumstances and lifestyle, they may or may not work for you. Most importantly if you are starting your self-care journey, be consistent but also be patient with yourself.*
As always, please feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions or concerns on this or similar topics.
-Say no to things that do not serve who you are or who you wish to be
-Take scheduled self-care breaks throughout your work day.
- Create a bedtime/morning routine that includes doing something soothing/relaxing
- Incorporate aromatherapy into your daily routine
-Say no to work related things such as, phone calls, and emails during your personal time.